I don't think @Unlisted was trying to be insensitive. They were "blunt" definitely. It obvious you care very much for this person. However addicts only care for themselves and their addiction. He'll give you attention as long as he has his drug. When he's out of drugs, you don't exist. I was married to an addict. He was all you described. Years into the relationship it just got worse and worse. I don't know what you expect from him but I will tell you; On the worst night, when he's out of drugs and you need him...He'll always pick DRUGS FIRST! He'll tell you he needs it so he can help you, but it's a lie. If he wants to be with you, he would quit the drugs. We teach people how to treat us by what we accept from them. Teach him to respect you, himself and his health. Be Smart and Be Safe!