She should know you're in a tough spot and she shouldn't be putting more pressure on you for trying to figure it all out.
You could just tell her what you're telling us. That you're obviously in a tough spot and you've been trying to figure out how to deal with it all. If you've changed your mind about her calling children's services you can tell her you appreciated it, but more likely than not, she knows. If you need help, don't be afraid to get it. Especially if you're able to.